Sunday, September 7, 2008

Going back...

My parents were working in Ohio when I was born, then we moved here when I was 2 yrs old.  

I married at 23, had 2 children, lived a miserable 4 yr marriage, then got out when I was 27.  I raised my son & daughter, now 28 and 26, alone.  Looking back I don't know how I did it financially.  There was no child support (not because I didn't challenge the legal system!), no welfare/food stamps (supposedly I earned too much for a family of 3, I think I used to earn about $800/month), and I had a $200/month mobile home pmt and $220/month child care.  I remember going to the grocery store weekly and only being able to spend $15.!! Of course, things were cheaper then, but still...  I tell eveyone who asks that GOD helped provide, because we never went without.

In spite of my ex cursing me and telling eveyone who would listen that I was going to lose everything, I managed to pay 11 yrs on the mobile home until it was paid for, then I took out an $8K loan and added a room and made some repairs, paid that off, and in the meantime I would scrimp by and save every penny I could. 

Six yrs ago I asked my parents to co-sign a $30K loan and my beloved BIL was my contractor and he built a 3 bedroom brick for me.  I am proud to say I paid $500/month and I just gave the final payment 2 wks ago!! YEAH ME!!!! How's THAT for Women Power?!?!???!!!  I always say, where there's a will, there's a way.

Don't want this to get too long, so I'm going to cut it here for now.  Will reminisce more as I have time.


  1. Woman Power!! You really showed everyone what you are made of! Grit and determination! Good for you!! Congrats on paying off the house. Feels wonderful, doesn't it?

    It is great to reminisce!!

  2. I think it's great that you did so well on your own.  My friend's ex refuses to pay his child support and so by her tales I know how hard that is.  What an accomplishment that you made such a good life for yourself and your kids. :)  Estela

  3. YOU GO, GIRL!!!!!!!!!  WOO HOO!!!!  I'm Proud of you!!!!   I only have ONE child and get child support and it's STILL hard, I couldn't imagine NOT getting any with TWO kids!!!  I'm in AWE of you!!!!  BIG HUGS!!!